For men, there's often an unspoken, burdensome silence that never seems to change, regardless of age or background. They often do not openly express their feelings for the fear being labelled a weak person or having their feelings judged. However, this silence may have negative impact on their mental and emotional well-being.

International Men’s Day, celebrated every November 19, is dedicated to raise awareness on men’s and boys’ health and holistic well-being. With the theme 'Positive Role Models,' this year’s International Men’s Day is a time to celebrate the men who lead, reminding us that vulnerability is a strength. Together, we can encourage men to talk, reach out, and break out of social shackles that restrict their emotions.

In this blog, we look at what mental health means for men, the barriers to showing emotion, and positive role models for men who could prompt conversation and create a safe environment.

Why Is It Important for Men to Open Up About Mental Health?

There are many cultures where men grow up hearing "man up." This kind of mentality coaches them to stifle their feelings, and that vulnerability is a weakness. That's wrong, though. Mental health does not discriminate. People of all genders experience depression, anxiety and stress.

Studies show that men are generally more reluctant than women to seek professional help for mental health issues, often due to societal stigma or personal hesitation. This reluctance has serious consequences. Research indicates that men account for approximately 75–80% of global suicides each year. These alarming statistics serve as a wake-up call for greater awareness and action.

The effects continue to ripple out when a man represses his emotions. It harms relationships, work productivity, and health starts to fall. The breaking of the silence isn’t about the amount of talk anymore; it’s about survival, strength, and essentially redefining what it means to be a man.

What Are the Common Symptoms of Mental Health Problems in Men?

Mental illness does not always announce itself with warning signs. Very often, it is masked beneath subtle layers of going about one's daily life, making it easy to ignore or dismiss. Here are some indicators that might indicate an issue:

• Irritability and anger: Rather than looking sad, many men display their emotional hurt through frustration or anger.
• Substance abuse: Drowning one's sorrows with alcohol or drugs is also a common coping mechanism.
• Withdrawal: Pulling away from friends and family is a red flag.
• Sleep disturbances: Insomnia or sleeping too much can be signs of stress or depression.
• Physical symptoms: Headaches, digestive issues, and chronic fatigue often accompany mental health struggles.

If you notice these signs in yourself or someone close to you, don't ignore them. Early intervention may help prevent the situation.

How Do Symptoms Differ Between Men and Women?

Understanding these differences can help you identify struggles in yourself or the men around you. While women often express sadness and seek social support, men might channel their emotions into physical actions or externalise their pain. For instance:

• Emotions: Men are more likely to suppress emotions, leading to stoicism that masks distress.
• Coping strategies: Men often lean on distractions like work, hobbies, or substances, while women may lean on social networks.
• Suicide risk: Men are less likely to report suicidal thoughts but are more likely to act on them.

These differences underline why tailored approaches to men’s mental health are so crucial. Awareness is the first step, but creating an environment where men feel safe to speak is the game-changer.

Creating a Supportive Environment for Men

Building a world where men feel comfortable opening up starts with us. Here’s how you can play a role:

1. Encourage Open Conversations: Start small. Ask how they’re really doing and listen without judgment. Create a space where they can speak freely without feeling “less than.”
2. Challenge Stereotypes: It’s time to redefine masculinity. Strength lies in acknowledging emotions, seeking help, and caring for oneself. Positive male role models who embody these traits can pave the way for others.
3. Normalise Therapy: Therapy isn’t just for crises; it’s a tool for growth and resilience. Sharing stories of men who’ve benefited from counselling can help dismantle the stigma.
4. Promote Healthy Coping Mechanisms: Physical activity, mindfulness, and hobbies can be powerful outlets. Highlight alternatives to unhealthy habits like drinking or overworking.
5. Educate About Resources: Share hotlines, support groups, and mental health apps. Knowing where to turn can make seeking help less daunting.

Positive Male Role Models: Leading the Way

Role models play a pivotal role in reshaping narratives around masculinity. A positive male role model doesn’t just show strength; he shows compassion, empathy, and resilience. Take Robin Williams as an example. While the world knew him as a comedic genius, his struggles with mental health remind us that even the brightest smiles can hide pain. By sharing stories like his, we normalise conversations about mental health.

Closer to home, fathers, uncles, and friends can serve as role models by openly expressing their emotions. This demonstrates to younger generations that vulnerability isn’t a weakness but a strength.

Conclusion

Breaking the silence on men’s mental health isn’t just a campaign; it’s a movement. It’s about dismantling harmful stereotypes, fostering open conversations, and building a world where men feel safe to seek help. This International Men’s Day, let’s celebrate the positive male role models in our lives while becoming one ourselves.

Because when men talk, we all heal. Let’s make it easier, not harder, for the men around us to say, “I’m struggling.” One conversation, one role model, and one step at a time, we can change lives.